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In this podcast we are having a guest his name is Jacques Marais
He is from the UK he is a sexoological body worker In this podcast we are talking about different types of orgasm and the kundalini serpent.
The yoga difference between orgasm and ejacucation breath works that could increase the length of orgasm
However The discussion has went on more than what we have initially thought so that reading of his chart is splitted into another episode stay tuned for that
lets begin this special episode
Erotic Mysticism and Beloved kundalini godess.
Also you can connect with him through his website https://wisdomthroughpleasure.com/
Below is a non verbal transcript of the podcast
hi
this is arun from irons yoga dot iron
i am a software engineer who mostly work
with
node.js php and other backend
technologies
and i’m an open source contributor as
well
i’m a tantric by birth in a family which
is passing tantric wisdom from
generations to generations from past
years of legacy and got lucky to
travel across
india and got chances to study under
various gurus from different backgrounds
and disciplines you could connect with
me
in irons yoga.in here i am helping you
to design
a divine lifestyle which is based on
vedic astrology tandra and other yogic
system of
understanding
in this podcast we are having a guest
his name is jacquaz marais
he is from the uk he is a sexological
body worker
in this podcast we are talking about
different types of orgasm and the
kundalini serpent
his journey towards the sexological
body working the yoga the differences
between
orgasm and ejaculation breathe works
that could
increase the length of orgasm however
the discussion has went
on more than that we have initially
thought so that
reading of his chart is splitted into
another episode
stay tuned for that let’s begin this
special episode
erotic mysticism and beloved kundalini
goddess
also you could connect with him through
his website
www.wisdomtruthpleasure.com
so yeah i thank you to come to the
uh podcast so
i would be really interested to know
who you are what is your background what
all are your work
and what was your journey
how do you reach this particular point
of
time and how do you feel about what you
have done
so far and
like that can you talk about these
things
okay it’s quite a long journey um
i know our theme is on sexual energy
and tantra today so i could probably
talk about everything from a scientific
perspective or from a tantra perspective
but i actually like to bring in both as
i’ll use some tantric terms and tantric
ways of thinking about things but also
some science
and so on so i’ll start with my story
is i was born in south africa and about
years ago i
moved to the uk so i studied
actuarial science i was i worked in the
city for
many years and you can really say i was
one of these
people who was working long hours very
stressful
always in the city lots of finance
numbers
and you know the type that all always
you know with a
tie on and a lot of stress
not enough time and so on and it was
was about five years ago that i was also
very interested in the bdsm
scene so i don’t know if you know much
about bdsm
yeah so it’s it’s not just um
sexuality but usually in related with
it’s an acronym for um bondage dominance
submission um sadism masochism so
you introduce pain in a sexual context
and so on a lot
a lot of what they do in bdsm is sort
it’s similar
to what some western tantra people do
but then in other cases it’s really
different
in my mind they’re trying to achieve the
same thing just in a different way
um and i got
interested in sort of doing exercises to
increase
my sexual experience because i found
bdsm was a very internal experience i
know a lot a lot of people don’t view it
this way
i see it as a sacred experience
very spiritual it’s something that you
go inside and you’re actually looking at
what you are experiencing as a person in
you know and then what that means for
your life outwards
so in out um
so i started reading on the internet so
to what exercises can i do and i read
about
these things called pc muscle exercises
which you can also do for me
and at the time i was working abroad and
i had a lot of time
to myself and so i started doing these
exercises
where you actually tighten the muscles
together with certain breathing
in your pelvic floor
this probably for about three months of
doing this
say for at least half an hour every day
didn’t do anything
and i just thought well this is sort of
silly i thought
maybe it will improve my sex life maybe
it’ll
um and it didn’t actually do anything
until at some point when i realized like
wow with the exercises i can actually
now
pull up my testicle and i think if it
wasn’t for that moment i would probably
would have stopped
um so i got excited well things are
happening but actually sexually they
didn’t
actually do anything but it was only
after about another three months
months of doing this every day and i’d
say every day because i think it has to
be done every day
but things really started changing
um i started noticing that
a sort of tingling sensation at the
at the bottom not just my genital but
further inside
and then i started realizing that this
tingling sensation feels a lot like what
we would call an orgasm but a very light
you know very sort of
tingling something they and so on
that’s all this is very interesting what
is this and i spent a lot of time
sitting but you know what if i do this
what if i pull that muscle
and buckle that muscle and i was
actually sitting
focusing on the different muscles in my
pelvic region
i didn’t know what i was doing um what i
realized later
is that actually i wasn’t actually
tightening the pc muscles i was actually
doing
other muscles and so on so from a
tantrum perspective
they would call this your root chakra
and i was actually spending a lot of
time focusing on my root chakra
and um we would call it generating
sexual energy
so this is actually what you do when you
have sex
it’s actually um your body starts
generating sexual
energy in that very same region and then
when the energy reaches a certain point
this sort of flows over into orgasm
and this conversion from our normal
energy into sexual energy is something
that
i didn’t know what was going on i didn’t
know anything about tantra
i was just trying something i read on
the internet
so you can imagine me going oh well that
feels nice and so on and then at some
point i realized
that if i sort of shift my hips as well
and focus on the back of my spine
that tingling would pull out the back of
my spine
so you can really say my story is almost
like discovering tantra like a child i
didn’t know anything i was just
discovering a name
it’s sort of the tingling would sort of
be almost like pins and needles but
sometimes
sharper and sometimes bigger and then it
was literally one day
i was sitting on the train also you know
tightening the muscles doing the
breathing
and this energy just like shot up my
spine and so on and i got this like
big pelvic orgasm on the train
and i was just oh wow oh my god i could
just like
through breathing and muscle exercise i
could make myself orgasm
and it’s different to like what i would
call a penis orgasm if you
if you think um i think if you have
male genitals you have an orgasm it’s
sort of your penis gets a bit hot
just before you orgasm and that’s the
sexual energy inside the penis
but if that heat can be pulled inside
you actually orgasm
at a deeper level inside more towards
your anus
maybe around the prostate as well and
this
i just found bizarre so i started
playing more
and got really interested in anal play
i tried different toys with a prostate
and especially
um with anal sex and
found that the prostate is probably
closer to that area where you feel the
warmth inside and the orgasms i managed
to
get much bigger orgasms through anal
play in the prostate than i could
otherwise and actually found it easier
while doing that play to pull that
energy up
and then in the bdsm scene doing
different things i would
um start getting big prostate orgasms
from
doing this and this is with no
ejaculation whatsoever
i ended up not liking um ejaculation
that much
because it was sort of once you
ejaculate then you sort of feel tired
so so i played a lot around
with this until i could you pull the
energy up to this point
we would say just behind your heart and
from there
if the energy just blows out to the rest
of your body and this i learned later is
what they call the full body orgasm
and you can actually initiate that by
focusing on certain areas of your spine
and i found certain areas of the spine
you focus on that
it’s got a much more powerful response
than other parts
later on and i’m talking about only two
years later i learned these are what
they call chakra points and then people
would tell me how chakra points don’t
exist i’d tell them no no
when she learned to focus on them they
do i didn’t even know what they meant
i didn’t even know what the significance
was or anything
it was just again i was learning i i
have a question like
um how do you distinguish between the
attraction and orgasm
like as a man when
we ejaculate uh there will be a certain
feeling
so what is the difference between that
and an
orgasm ejaculation is the physical
process
where the muscles contract in order to
ejaculate sperm out your urethra out
your penis
so it’s a physical process the orgasm
is a sensation it’s the nerves you can
orgasm in any part of your body
it’s just that when when we’re born
and the way we are brought up we’re just
taught that our
orgasm your orgasm is run by your
autonomous nervous system
it’s like it’s not under your mind your
mind’s control
but you can teach it to be under your
mind’s control it just
almost like breathing so if you forget
about it your
body breathes but you can focus and you
can change it
but your orgasm is a bit it so it’s a
sensation it’s the nerves going
buzzing so that that to me is the main
difference between ejaculation
so at some point i had this
really big experience um
and it was after a lot of sexual play
and it was it’s almost like this
heat started at the bottom of my spine
and this heat came up
and it just hit the top of my head here
and i had this sort of
almost like explosions with bright
lights
and i just thought wow this is an
amazing type of orgasm one i’ve never
experienced
and it was probably for like an hour
after that i couldn’t move i was just
like
totally numb and just thinking wow
that’s an amazing thing
and it was really strange this event
changed me forever i didn’t know what it
was
um i later learned this is what they
call a kundalini awakening
um i learned so much after this and i
was actually seeking for answers after
this so long but at that point
straight after that event my ejaculation
and orgasm split
so i could then i would say
have sex or even masturbate and i would
ejaculate
with no orgasm or i would
orgasm in different parts along before
i’m ejaculating or even after and so on
and there’s lots of different types of
orgasms in different parts of the body
they feel different different
intensities some last for
ages and at this point everything
everything opened up in my body um
it’s almost like if you can focus on one
part of the body and then it takes a
while to move the energy
to another part and you have to breathe
and focus
and do muscle exercises and it used to
be
used to be a long time before i can
actually move it used to take me about
minutes
to move the energy just up to the to up
one chakra point to the
next part of my spine once the awakening
came it was just
within seconds i could just focus here
focus there if i could say
everything and so on this had a profound
effect on my life
in the fact it was not just about
orgasms anymore it wasn’t about sex
anymore it was
everything changed i felt my whole
consciousness started expanding
i became hypersensitive to everything
around me
i started feeling not just my own
energy and my body moved but other
people’s
i could i start to sing auras i don’t
know if anyone’s ever experienced that
but that
really freaked me out i started losing
sleep like any i couldn’t there was
about months where
i only slept a few hours a week
sometimes
this my emotions became
i would i’d have these massive emotional
outpours of just like
feeding in love with people and then two
days later
massively depressed and it was
this real i
maybe in the world of tantra you’ve
heard of kundalini awakenings
at the time this was happening i had
again no
idea what was going on with me i just
thought like wow
this is amazing but then there’s also
like a dark side to it
so i don’t know the thing is like i
studied the speaker
so i started to learn
about the tandra from my parents itself
because it’s
not like the sexual application of the
same
it is about how to deal with the samsara
in india
we differentiate the life into two
different
aspects like one is spiritual aspect
another one is
samsara aspect so
whoever want to deal with these samsara
aspect
they how to deal with the uh
tandric energy which is like
astrology vedic astrology uh
and yandra mantra tundra which all comes
into
a sound likely this is hundred
verses which is being written by sri
sankaracharya
then kamasutra uh then
the science of vastu comes under this
thing
so there are totally four things we have
to
learn i mean at least we have to go to
somebody who knows all these four
to understand to deal with the um
the samsara the everyday activity
so uh also after
uh coming out from my home i joined my
engineering this time i went to
ashram’s gurukulas and started to travel
across
different temples and started to talk
with yogis
and teachers into different disciplines
and all together stuffs like that so
one thing i understood when we go
deep mysterious thing the
life around us will be become like
a erotic life
so if we see inside that
the mysticism how much mystic you have
become
uh the life around you will be become
erotic
that is true that is experience actually
and guru also says the same
in one of his book i saw the true mystic
is the one who can see god in woman’s
body
that is such a beautiful description
this has been
raja guru uh in one of his uh uh
forward for uh sound well he
done structural analystic for the
soundtrack and he has written a forward
uh
in one of its cover it’s saying like
this way
and like the true yogi is the one who
can see
the uh i mean the golden woman’s body i
mean
if it’s a woman she should be able to
see the goat in the men’s body
so that is when the uh god will
start to i mean god is erotica basically
you know um this is whether
uh uh the larger community
asset to this or not i really don’t know
whether the uh samsaric people or the
society socially will accept it or not
but when we speak about subjective
experience
level this is something which is which i
have experienced
like god is erotica
like i rumi
one of his poetry that all the beautiful
things in this world is created for the
eyes which it can see
you see that is so beautiful
to be honest um it was only
through tantra and learning a lot about
india that i actually found
anyone or any books that could relate
to what was happening to me so but what
you’re describing
in that god is erotica and that
everything becomes erotic
that there were these moments probably
around
three four months after my awakening
where
everything became orgasmic everything i
touched
everything was like an orgasm i started
orgasming the whole time and it reached
these sort of
times when i had like these outer body
experiences
and there were times when it was like it
felt like
i could feel the connection between
everything
everything and it’s almost like
everything is love
there’s like love is what connects
everything
and this feeling of just being at one
with
everything and to be able to swim in
that love
it’s to me so i don’t know anything
about
india or anything but what you’re saying
really resonates
because that’s exactly how it feels it’s
beyond orgasm it’s not orgasm is like a
celebration of our bodies
but when you start feeling into
everything around you
it’s it’s more than that it’s it’s
almost like
god and the universe and consciousness
is is love is what binds
the consciousness and the universe
everything together and i remember
reading about shiva shakti in
the concept of shiva being the
consciousness and
shakti being the earth and she’s at the
bottom and he’s at the top and it’s the
joining of these two
that i really love that idea is that
god is consciousness when they combine
used to be drama and that
combination of the two is what makes the
universe
this is my rudimentary understanding
to know about that this is what i
understood by traveling in india the
in india there is a concept called
it is half woman and half men like you
know yin and yan
like negative and positive so
uh goddess the shakti is being the
pregardi what we call it is the um
subject goddess is the subject whereas
the
shiva is the object and when
they who unite together uh
the remainder is
complete and it is zero
you know there is i mean
it is zero also it is one also it is
both
middle when so that space in that
particular space
uh we feel like
um we will become creative like
when a woman and a man comes together
what happens is like
it it open up a new
way of life to earth
it open up a new life in the same way
there is shiva and shakti in our body
when we unite it through a meditation
or a deep breathing what happens
we started to resonance the
uh uh power of creativity through
uh our body and our body become creative
and we will
become creative so this is the
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this is the core of the wisdom all the
philosophers or
whatever the mystics or whoever is
seeking
that is when the uh dance become the
dancer and the dancers become the dance
so there is no separation there is no
duality non-duality will happen
so so this is gonna and i’ll probably
speak to
more westerners out there because i
think in the western world when they
hear anything about
hinduism or tantra they take it with a
pinch of salt they think that’s just
another religion
and all of that and so on but from my
for me this was a direct experience
a direct experience where i started
going into my body feeling things and
that the result was so intense
changed my life completely and it was
only in
um indian learnings
and maybe a little bit from the taoist
that actually made sense of what i could
do there’s no
westernized religion or any structure
that can help people like me or even
like there are no ashrams in europe
there are no
gurus you can talk to that can help you
with this stuff
you really when you have these
spontaneous awakenings there’s
it’s difficult it’s really difficult
there’s nothing like that out there so
i’m kind of envious of people living in
india
but it’s also i think i would also
wish to speak to people like me or the
old me
like what needs to happen in your life
for you to get closer to god
and i think orgasm is a really
it’s it’s a solid path
because that is a direct experience that
it not just
changed my it changed my body it changed
it changed the way i think
it changed it changed the way i feel
about the world
it gave me experiences like nothing else
you could imagine
um and all of this through orgasm
um i think orgasm is one of the last
things available to the western world
who
they don’t do yoga they don’t meditate
but it’s the one of the last things
available
to people in the western world to
actually
open open themselves up to the energy
moving
i have met other people who’ve had these
awakenings and they said the same thing
as there’s
in the western world there’s no help for
people like
you know when you go through these
experiences
um i’d
i actually went through a lot of time
then actually
as you say my scientific cap
i tried different types of orgasms and i
tried to sort of
categorize different orgasms in myself
and see like what if i do this
what works what doesn’t work and maybe
understand myself better
at the same time my life was falling
apart i’ve lost
pretty much most of my friends today i
realized it’s just that
they were friends but it’s in a very
sort of egotistical way it was all just
like uh
we just meet up and then just have a
certain pattern that we always follow
and it actually just didn’t interest me
anymore
um also i lost my job
i couldn’t i couldn’t work in the way i
was mostly because i became too
sensitive to people and you can’t sit
there at work
and explain to people well my shiva and
shakti are
connecting more
please bear with me no no no no i can
understand that what is happening man
just says
so so i quit work and
i i looked for some um advice
and um i went to different parts
um to heal myself um
i also found some people that work in
tantra
and don’t know what they’re talking
about and that actually caused
i would say more harm than good and i
became very skeptical about talking
about it because a lot of people want to
talk about sexual energy and
it’s a dangerous thing um
if you stop messing with sexual energy
and you don’t know what you’re doing
and i speak from experience you can
cause more damage to yourself you need
to
um i also felt a lot of
people who give advice they give advice
because they want you to be a client of
theirs
or they give advice in terms of what
they know
so if they don’t know what you’re going
through or they’ll give advice they know
exactly what you’re going through but
they’re trying to push you in a certain
direction in a certain way of thinking
um and this is when i thought like this
is not
working for me and i
i mean my psychiatrist that i was seeing
she
was really interested in kundalini and
she helps people with
awakenings but she had a buddhist
background and she was
actually saying always talking about
buddhism
and i just felt the buddhist
the buddhist way of thinking it’s
excluded the
sexuality side of things and i think my
awakening was very sexual
and it’s not that it excluded it but it
just doesn’t view it as something that
is that you need on the pathway towards
ascension
so i decided to leave that and i decided
to just
go with my own way and that is the
journey that’s still happening
um i thought well maybe i can teach
other people
what i’m doing because i feel like
all my time spent focusing on my own
body is now i can actually teach people
how to awaken to their energy how to
actually move energy in their bodies
but i was also scared to just study
something tantra because in the west
tantra can mean anything i don’t think
there are people who are like as you say
escort services they say they’ll give
you a tantra massage
it’s not it’s actually just an erotic
massage with the word tantra on
and then there are people who know a lot
who no one will listen to just because
it sounds
too detailed too religious for most
westerners to actually so
what do i do that’s something in between
and this is where i found um sexological
bodywork
which i found it’s not the whole story
but because the focus is on
the neuroscience like what is happening
in our nervous system
during sexual pleasure and um orgasm etc
um what is the difference between
a sexological body worker and
an escort service
okay so in sexological bodywork the aim
is an educational purpose
so you can go to a sex worker or an
escort
they give you pleasure so which is great
a lot of people we
we say we want intimacy or we want
pleasure
and they provide that sexological body
worker
will not only we can provide
pleasure as well but that’s not the goal
the goal is
an intention of what do you want to
change about your sexuality
what do you want to learn and to learn
how your
your sexuality works so most of the time
there’s exercises to be done most of
sexological body work you
it’s like yoga you go and do it on
yourself we’ll show you how to do it
but the real thing is when you are
focusing on your body
and this is what we is the real purpose
of sexual logical body work
is just like yoga embodiment the more
our brain is connected to our body the
more we’re in touch
with our emotions our happiness
our desires because if we’re not in
touch with our desires
then we don’t know what we want and then
how do we know
what’s going to make us happy so and
especially in the western world
so many people are not embodied and
sexological bodywork just
views this as in sexuality is a great
way in a very powerful way
to increase embodiment and a lot of the
exercises are not sexual at
all they’re actually just focusing on
your body and to see what comes up
so the big the big difference is the
educational purpose
between um seeking pleasure
and it’s i wouldn’t call it a form of
therapy because
it’s a person themselves sets the
intention
rather than actually saying this is what
we’re going to do
and you make of that what you want
so it’s very personalized um what i also
liked about it is that
inclu it includes touch so most
therapies like psychotherapists are not
allowed to
touch you but for sexological bodywork
we are
and i feel touch and connection and
especially moving energy between people
especially in tantra is very important
for um to learn and to
get connection and to heal when you
actually go to a healer that can touch
you
i think is very powerful um
this has all been um did i say it
destroyed by the coronavirus with
lockdown we’re not allowed to still not
allowed to fall groups or
touch people in a professional way um
so that’s not happening at the moment
and it’s
very sad as the last few months have
been quite bad
um but i actually feel there’s there’s a
reason
this happened i’m just not sure why yet
this is like this time
you will get more time to sit in home
across the globe everybody get
more time to sit in home and observe
what is happening inside them
and you know yeah actually like
uh the question the
what am i who am i we can actually
uh ask ourselves and you know there is
no much
rattles and sort of stuff there is no
much
position there is not much
running before that and this and those
so it’s very perfect time for asking
ourselves who am i what am i what am i
doing
sort of stuff you know yeah
and to actually sit and ask those
questions rather than just being busy
the whole time and you work
demanding all your time to think you can
actually sit at home and
ask these bigger questions what am i
doing with my life where am i going and
i think a lot of people are asking these
and then even widening that is so if
we’re going to go back to work well
maybe we don’t need to work so hard
maybe
if we focus more on connecting with
people and being happy
then this is this is the way we want to
go why should we always
just go rush back into this world that
everyone else wants us to be in
if if we can survive lockdown then
surely maybe this is the way
we can be looking forward
it’s probably not going to happen but i
think the question
and the seed of the question is across
the whole globe
everyone is starting to realize
and ask these questions the seed has
been planted
yeah and that is a nice thing that’s
been happened actually
um
if somebody
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tell you that you
are not different from the whatever the
escort service is being uh
offering how do you respond to
that particular comment i would tell
i would ask them what do you want from
this session
what do you want to learn and i don’t
think any escort would ever ask that
i think someone who is looking to get a
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or someone who is looking for intimacy
and then the person asks them what do
you want to learn and i’m not going to
do anything until you tell me what you
want to learn
i think it’s quite quickly they start
realizing oh
it’s not about me just having pleasure
like oh my body is having pleasure and
i’ll enjoy that and then i’ll go home
and
you know now i actually have to think
what do i want to learn and i also ask
them what do you want to
change about your sex life
what do you want to change actually
an escort would say well you’re here for
a certain reason but then they’re not
going to ask you because it’s they’re
just
doing the job of what you ask but i’m
actually going to ask you
what do you want to change about
yourself
and then give you exercises to go home
and actually change them
so if somebody ask you
to give whatever the escort service
is offering to do
how how do you respond to this
if they say um can i give them a massage
with a happy ending
um i would ask them what would you
learn if i do that and let’s say they
say
i would learn to feel more pleasure i
would say okay we can do that but while
i’m doing this
also when we do this i wear gloves
i also agree what we’re going to do up
front
and so i will help them but during this
time i will ask them to
focus on certain pleasure i’ll also ask
them
what do you want me to do during this
time that would make it even feel better
so what am i doing i’m actually
connecting them to their desires and to
their pleasures so they’re asking a
question of themselves
what do i want
what do i want to learn but ask them
questions
um during this does this
what do i need to do to make it feel
even better
how would what could we do in order to
for you to change something about your
sex life so that
you don’t need to come to me again you
don’t need to go because you can
actually find pleasure
um within yourself
we’d also talk about masturbation a lot
of people
i find almost everyone have a certain
pattern of masturbation
so the way your nervous system works it
follows a certain
it likes the same story so
if you think if you always think the
same thoughts you end up with the same
conclusions your body is the same
if you give it the same input it gives
the same output so they form like a
pathway towards the orgasm so they
masturbate and they do the same thing
and then they orgasm at the end then
when they have a partner they actually
might struggle to orgasm
because their body is not given the same
input
or they even struggle to get an erection
because they
the body is used to a certain pattern
and they only get that
from masturbation so how do you change
that
well you have to do it step by step and
maybe that is what they want maybe the
only way they can get pleasure is by
going to see an escort over and over
seeing an escort again and again again
is not going to solve the problem
the real problem is that you formed a
pattern in your life
that we need that we could address if
you would like to change that
so i also also believe
that actually when you’re touching
someone
especially certain chakra points and you
enter someone’s aura
invited you can actually change this
when you can actually feel the person’s
energy
and that’s where i feel touch is really
important
um i feel like this was a talent i
developed since the awakening it made me
very sensitive to the outside world
like i couldn’t go to restaurants
anymore i couldn’t
even walking outside seemed extremely
stressful because i would like pick up
other people’s
they sort of level where they’re at
especially in the city it gets
incredibly stressful but this is a
talent
it’s something you can use to actually
help other people to know
to sort of feel the person’s body and to
see oh okay well that chakra points
needs
a bit more effort um
and this part not so much
and then let’s dig deeper into that and
and see how you feel about it
so i do feel touch is very important
when doing healing you need the
psychological aspect as well so you need
to talk
but touch on the physical this is why
it’s called body work
i don’t think sexualogical bodywork is
the only thing i’ll ever do
and some bits at the moment i believe in
it quite strongly
it’s also it’s also quite it’s lgbt
friendly
so we help anyone of all sexualities
um i myself am bisexual so i feel very
strongly about it that it’s
inclusive as well
um would you like to move on to
orgasms i could talk about some
exercises that i teach
yeah yeah okay
or if you have any other questions just
stop me and so so this is something i
learned from doing it myself
and actually later on i didn’t know what
i was doing like i was saying earlier on
and then later on i actually looked at
the science and the neuroscience behind
it
and it started making a lot of sense and
it also makes a lot
a lot of sense from a chakra perspective
from a tantra perspective
i’m looking at different chakra points
so
you’ve got certain muscles if you
take male genitals and then
you go downwards under underneath the
testicles there’s an area called the
perennium
so and then if you’ve got a vagina and a
vulva
if that is sort of the same area the
perennium is actually
really thin a small part between the
anus
and the and the vagina uh vaginal
opening
but it doesn’t matter what your sex
there are certain muscles
called the bulbospongiosus muscles so
they lie
if you take your anus and then move
do you want to do this exercise with me
right now
okay so if you sit on your chair and sit
on if your chair is hard it’s probably
better so sit on your anus
okay so that your anus is as flat as
possible on the
on the chair okay can you feel it
okay now tilt just a little bit forward
so so that the area about an inch about
an
inch in front of your anus on the
testicle side of your eyes that
you’re sitting on on that area okay
so in taoism they call this the million
dollar spot and it’s actually a little
indent
at the real base of your penis and
around that spot are these bulbous
spongiosis muscles
these muscles pump when you ejaculate
they pump for a man it’s under just a
little bit under a second you can
actually
press that point when you ejaculate or
you could press that point now
um and you can feel a pump when you
ejaculate
um for people with vaginas it also pumps
and
this and the muscles that look a little
bit different they actually go around
the vagina
and they also contract and so on there
are bits
the contractions are a little bit slower
for people with vaginas but it’s the
same muscles doesn’t matter what our sex
the same muscles so our nervous system
is used to
that if these muscles contract we orgasm
so what happened to me is that this
connection
got removed but for most people these
two are together
so we’re going to use that
so what you’re going to do is while
you’re sitting on them you’re going to
try and
push down try and push all your hip
muscles
but try and you can maybe even put two
fingers and put
put that on there and then try and push
down
okay it might feel very weak
it’s it’s a very it’s not such a big
muscle it’s actually when it goes it
really
pumps but it’s not such a big muscle
it’s not like your anus muscle is
actually quite
big in relation so your anus you pull
tight and you can really feel them
so these muscles are also the ones that
pump
they tighten slightly when you get
stimulated they
they tighten slightly and they help pump
blood into your penis
it’s the same muscles for people with
vaginas they help pump
blood into what they call the seminal
vesicles and
the whole vaginal opening sort of swells
up and you get
engorged so a woman will get sort of
a woman should not have sex until she’s
engorged because that can be really
uncomfortable and you can do damage
and this usually takes longer for a
person with a vagina than a person with
a penis
or people with penises they get engaged
in an erection
like that for people with women
it’s all about yen energy and it’s
slower
and you need to take your time before
they get ex excited
it’s not a rule but it’s a tendency some
people are different
so what we’re going to do is we’re going
to
so once you’ve found those muscles that
you tighten on
we’re going to breathe into them
so you find a lot of breathing exercises
you find in tantra
are actually they tighten the muscles on
the
in-breath and then they release on the
outbreak and that’s
really really good for relaxing so you
might some yogic breathing is usually
you do the belly breathing you do yoga
right yeah
of course you do yoga um
so you do belly breathing so it means
you push your belly out
on the in-breath and then on the out
breath you’re going to tighten the
muscle okay
so imagine imagine what it’s like when
you orgasm
or not you orgasm imagine somebody
else’s orgasm
what do they do
they always tighten the muscle on the
out breath
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exactly sometimes they also hold it
someone who’s orgasming big they go
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yeah so we’re taking we’re taking those
habits that our body have
and we’re going to replicate them and
then what what’s what else are we
missing so we’re doing breathing
and we’re doing the muscle exercises
what else are we missing
sound and this is they do this a lot in
tantra is
we actually make this sound when we
orgasm
it’s not just an expression that we’re
we’re actually making the sound so that
our bodies resonates
so all our chakra points have like
different
frequencies that they resonate at so
you’ll often find
men orgasm they go and different
people’s frequencies are a little bit
different and this comes very natural
you need to find the sound you make when
you orgasm
some people mine’s quite high actually
some people go
so the the thing is like you know this
is called
mooladhara yes
this is called moladara uh this has been
uh
from one book called uh devi sagastranam
in india we believe this is where the
goddess is residing exactly
so once it’s been awoken that is called
kundalini awakening and
somebody who has awoken this power
is actually a yogi because um
he don’t need sex in order to
being in a state of mind and whereas
he didn’t neglect sex also
yogis are examining that huh
could you explain and elaborate by
donating sex
you know for instance
uh people think celibacy you know
where people won’t have sex so usually
believe that whoever is dealing with the
yogic system or the uh
things which is believable to be related
to do with god those peoples are usually
sex free things like that but what
is happening once the kundalini
awakening is happened
you don’t need a touch or an
external entity like as a man you may
needed a woman to
feel um in a calm state of mind
you know because whenever the busy
things are
happening sex is actually a relax
relaxation also it’s a release
a lot of things is getting released from
the body
uh so somebody who
knows what is happening who is able to
channelize this particular energy
properly
through the uh ada pingala there is two
nadis up there it looks like snake it
will come like the pingala and the ita
yeah yeah it’s like the snake
so that’s how to channelize this
properly through eda and fingla we call
it as in yogic system of understanding
we call it as ida
and pingala this is like two things and
this is in media
that is called sushupna
so yeah i’ve read about this yeah yeah
once it has been
it’s nothing to read actually this is to
experience you know
it is to experience when we experience
it is like very beautiful
and whoever is experiencing it’s for
first time
their and their understanding will
change because perception
will never been as same as before
this is what i think happened to me and
it is the only thing
that explained what happened to me
and it’s still it’s a sort of state of
heaven and hell
yeah like inside it feels like heaven
and then outside
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what happens is like once this energy is
started to
channelize properly through their
ida and pink law what happens is like
they neglect all other things because
you can’t see your father because he’s
just
another being just like you there is no
relationship between you and your father
there is no relationship between you and
your mother
there may be there will be no
relationship between you and your son
because all there is no you and there is
no your son
it’s just you there is no two entity no
there is no two entity will be there
it’s all you so why do you
need to have a relationship the
perception changes
so use the uh whatever happening this is
some
cases it’s happened suddenly without any
exercise or without
taking any medicines what happens is
like they start
to feel like they are
uh they are an alien
in their own house
till last it was their house from today
million in their own house
so that people will leave their houses
they go to remote places
and what this is this is high
and erotic joy which will open up in
mind it is nothing but god god you
started to experience
god the other especially people’s comes
from
semitic religions this is like very
difficult to understand also because uh
according to them god is somebody who is
sitting on top
but non-semitic religions like buddhism
jainism
parsi sikhism these peoples can
understand
what is what is this is actually is
about
and once you capable to channelize
this particular expert explosion which
is happening
inside you in your daily work
you are the perfect yogi
so you can channelize this that is the
story
it sounds very idyllic but i don’t think
this
it’s that simple and that easy i think
there’s a path to walk
and there’s also a lot of healing to be
done
it’s not it’s not so easy no it’s not
the awakening is just the beginning yeah
the awakening is the
you enlightenment is so simple
enlightenment is so simple anybody can
get it
but the true essence
of the life can be only
skews out from it
when you are capable to live
in the society with the enlightened
state
this is very very difficult because
you have to deal with a bunch of people
those who are caught in a space and time
named as mother and father whereas there
is no relationship is
existing at all they but
the way i picture it is it’s like we
have
a soul that’s connected to this body
but we also have this monster that lives
on top of us called the ego
and the ego it relates us to things the
ego tells us
oh but you are a mother and oh you are
an accountant
or you don’t like dogs or you don’t like
this and it’s a monster it’s we grew up
with this whole lives this
monster has caused us a lot of pain in
the past and it’s
it’s like a whole spider web that’s
taken over
and i’d probably say like
using the energy there are times when
i’ve i’ve seen glimpses of what it’s
like not to have an ego
so and i didn’t know what was going on
and it’s
amazing and you get the sort of clarity
of thoughts and it’s
it’s very beautiful what you’re saying
but it made me think of that
where you sort of view other people as
well they’re just spirits stuck with
other monsters on top of them there’s no
reason why should i behave differently
to this
one and this one and that one it’s
actually we’re all just
one we’re all just one with all these
sort of stuck with all these monsters
living on top of our spirit
and then when you walk outside and you
see people
with these egos and i start thinking
like
well who am i to judge them because i
also have an ego and this ego also does
terrible things
and it’s makes my life difficult
but there’s those little glimpses
sometimes
that you get like oh that’s what it’s
like
not having an ego and that’s
it’s a beautiful moment and i think that
is where
what they call enlightenment is when you
can have that the whole time
and let me just i think this is the way
i like to think about it
but enlightenment is the you know
enlightenment is the
is the is getting the test of the total
enlightenment is just getting the test
of the total
that is not self-realization
self-realization is
somewhat more than that of the
enlightenment
self-realization is when we start to
live with the glimpse which we already
had and we are applying that into our
life
that is called self-realization then
from there there are
samadhi is there samadhi is
uh people’s when they die people still
they die but
the death is not there it is just an
illusion
as the life as it is
life is an illusion and that’s also an
illusion
and you know when you go into the temple
you can see this shiva linga has been
placed inside the temple
and the drops of water will be
putting on the top of the shiva linga
with the
mantra so what is this
is saying is that when you reach the
state of samadhi
in that particular place you are neither
alive and you are not dead dead also
so that is forever that is called
eternity
some some that is called eternity
so now from there that is
cosmic you know you are gone
you know what’s the eighth level of yoga
i think yoga
but this is there is
actually there are four kind of yoga is
being said in
bhagavad-gita that is karma yoga nyana
yoga
um
yoga the word yoga means
is a union this is nothing but a union
so when you go to the state of total
when the kundalini awoken
and your consciousness exploded and you
got the taste of
union now you are applying this
understanding of the total in the work
you do
work you do so what happens
you can do this work in four ways
one is nana yoga yoga you can apply
this understanding in ghana ghana means
collecting knowledge you will be reading
books to books
that thing this thing and try to uh
analyze what is happening try to see
what is perception what
other perceptions are going inside the
mind
yoga so what you see is like you
understood the total and you
start to see it into bhakti like for
instance
you see jesus
suddenly you started to see jesus
everywhere wherever i touch that is
jesus this is jesus my mother is jesus
my father is jesus
i eat is the what i eat is jesus when i
go to toilet there is jesus
everywhere jesus this is bhakti like a
like an extreme synchronicity
yeah it could be jesus also it could be
anything
it could be yeah understand anything
really yeah
yeah anything really it is not needed to
be
then raja yoga raja yoga
is the uh intuition
you basically gonna trust what is gonna
happen
what is appearing inside your mind
inside you
not in your mind something will appear
in you
and suddenly mind will come
so for instance something like appearing
in on you so let me do this
so second thought
mind will start to analyze what will
happen if i do this
this is from the mind so the first thing
is intuition that is dragging backwards
go backwards like meditation you you
seek the original thought
this appearance there is nothing it has
nothing to do with mind
god intellect nothing it’s just
appearance
disappear okay okay appearance in a
sort of thoughtless state is that yeah
that is total state
and something will come and you will do
that
this is appearance it has nothing to do
with the thought
so that is raja yoga then karma yoga
you do job when you do
job you feel very good satisfied and
everything so this is uh karma yoga so
there are total four kind of yogas
are being said in bhagavad-gita yoga is
nothing but
union union with the absolutely yeah
that is the only meaning of yoga
thank you the writing was done
uh
yeah so the kata yoga is like exorcist
which
we do ashtanga yoga all those things
exercises it’s basically to
evoke the kundalini
and there is other effects of the yoga i
mean the khada yoga which
involves our body uh that
exercise there is other effect also
there it will increa
improve your sexuality it will improve
the quality of your life
it will improve your health all those
this is side effect
i mean that is not the aim of the yoga
yeah it’s so strange i started doing
yoga just
i mean i never used to think anything of
that was i
used to think it was so silly and stupid
and all of that
but it was only after the awakening when
i sort of
i looked at this video and i thought
okay i’ll just try a bit of yoga and i
had just
just simple stretches and i could feel
the energy sort of
just stretch in my body and i thought
like oh wow
this can really because i i had like
energy getting stuck
in certain areas sometimes whereas
actually if you did yoga it could
actually
stretch it out and let the energy
release i actually think this is why
people do the the you know western yoga
is all about moving the body
and stuff and that together with certain
breathing exercises and meditation
helped me immensely i actually think
that
that together with some form of sexual
release is probably the best
the best thing for anyone going through
any form of you know energy moving
through their body too much and problems
with that
i i think you have to meditate
and do yoga that is at least the
physical side of things
and but i came to it very naturally and
it’s only like now in retrospect and i
realized like how it’s it just sort of
came to me and i started doing it and
realized and i also realized if i do too
much
then that’s also bad because then like
there’s too much energy moving around
so there was the sort of balance to find
um
but i found the meditations probably
like an hour per day is a good balance
um and then i just sort of see where it
goes
i had to figure this all out myself i i
didn’t have anyone guide me and the
guidance that was there
where i felt really poor i still think
it’s quite poor
just speaking to you now i’m learning a
lot
there’s a reason you google me
but everything will happen for the
reason that is nothing is like
everything happens for a reason
i believe that
what what would you say i don’t know how
exposed you are to
like you live in india so you must know
what western culture is like because
there’s a lot of western culture
influence
but what would you say um to
westerners watching this podcast
how i mean if i was a western i would
just
not believe it i would think no this is
silly just people saying silly things
and the only thing i could really tell
people is that
it’s an experience and then the
experience is so intense that you just
literally start changing your mind about
things i
literally have opposite opinions of what
i used to have before about almost
everything
and then like how is that even possible
like i
was put it this way it’s not that i have
opposite opinions
it’s more like my opinions are wider
so as an example um i used to call
myself a capitalist
so i believe in the free market and
people have choices
i didn’t like communism because in my
country
the russians put a lot of stress on
south africa and it
it kept the apartheid system going for a
long time mostly because of pressure
from the communists
i didn’t like communism and i like
capitalism
but now i actually view it and i still
see a lot of people arguing between
capitalism communism but
i now see it as both sides are actually
just
the ego trying to make sense of a way we
can live together
it’s trying to make rules because
people don’t care about each other so
they make rules of
when they do something they need to what
happens with the stuff they do
and capitalism communism and all these
different ways of doing things are
actually just
different ways the ego is trying to deal
with the suffering it causes
this is so i could say this is my
opinion now
but it’s not really my opinion it’s just
what i’m noticing i
i feel actually i don’t really have an
opinion about
it like if i see people arguing about
capitalism communism
and that has happened a lot that’s sort
of
i’ll call it like a dualistic way of
thinking people either think it’s black
or is white
like people will say i’m vegan or i’m a
meat eater the meat eaters eat meat
every day every meal all the time and
the vegans never never never never never
well there’s no one in between and i
think this is a very sort of egotistical
way of thinking about
things is one or the other and they
can’t think of anything in between
and i’ve actually found myself that i
don’t have an opinion
which is good for you maybe being vegan
is healthy but then there’s also
unhealthy things about it
eating meat all day is also unhealthy
but maybe there’s
i don’t know um i could talk about my
experiences about it and so on but
i feel like what i feel is like whatever
is making you to feel good
you could basically use it whether if
communism is making you to feel good you
can join the communist
army and if you feel like
um capitalism is making you to feel good
you can join the
capitalistic forces and but
if if you are having a filter
whether what i am doing to me
is actually gonna affect the
other if whether it is gonna disturb my
mother or not
you know if there is a filter is there
then the life will be become like a
heaven
otherwise it will be looks like and
do i care do i care
that is the main question because when
when life becomes erotic
as you were saying in the beginning when
life becomes erotic when you’re making
love
with everything and everyone you can’t
but
not care you you care you care about
everything
you can’t it’s almost impossible for you
to do something
that would then want to hurt something
else because
you don’t hurt someone you’re having sex
with you don’t
hurt things that you’re making love to
you
it’s a it’s a confusing thought
for it’s a confusing thought to my
scientific brain
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no basically having sex or
making love i don’t like to use the word
sex also making love
to the other is actually a way of
expressing what you are
that is the easiest way to you to
express what you are
to the other you know
yeah the word making love i agree is
making love yeah
it’s not necessarily making it and it’s
an expression of the love that’s already
there self-expression of the love
so the when the words are changing the
depth of the
experience also will change you know and
that is
certainly divine
okay so
that is my story and the
exercises only one exercise you taught
me
next one
sorry the exercises you taught me only
one right
yes i was doing the orgasmic breathing
so that would be the sort of first step
to it
the the next part is actually
when you do that breathing and you
tighten the muscles
you feel a certain heat this can take
quite a while sometimes minutes
and so on
it feels like it feels almost like
a golf ball size maybe a bit smaller and
it’s usually some way
it’s your root chakra yeah
so it’s not the base of the spine it’s
maybe a bit more forward
it’s not quite where your prostate is
it’s maybe a bit more towards the
perineum so there we were
sitting on earlier maybe like an inch
inwards
i find most people get it around there
some people have it’s a much wider area
but when you breathe into it and you
tighten those muscles you get the sort
of heat
sometimes it also feels like tingling
almost like
like pins and needles but like in your
perineum
now that if you then stop it then
dissipates
it just goes away it just fades away and
so on sometimes even if you push
it’ll come and go come and go but if you
practice more
you can end up keeping it there for a
long time
but if you just keep it there it’s not
going to do anything so an orgasm
an orgasm is movement it’s moving energy
so an orgasm is like when yin and yang
come together if they just
they can grow big on both sides but if
they don’t come together you’re not
going to orgasm
so we need to move that we need to move
the energy
up the spine and this is this is like i
would probably say a whole
different way of doing it um
and i’ve also in certain yoga they teach
this they call it spinal breathing
so you keep you keep the muscle
exercises going but then you
move your focus of your brain you move
it to the back of your sacrum
which is with the the second chakra so
as you feel that heat then you change
your focus to
your sacrum and you keep focusing
scientifically this is where the
pelvic nerves the pudendal nerve and the
pelvic nerves come out
they’re really close together so all the
nerves that feed your genitals and so on
come out
at these same places these are called
plexis so
the science is that the plexis are the
same place with your chakra points
makes sense um if you focus
there you can almost feel that tingling
at the bottom of your chakra
and of your sacrum so at the top of your
coccyx
what and then you just focus there until
you start buzzing
and then you go up the next one and then
you go
sort of where your solar plexus is but
on your spine so just
above the small of your back and you
keep focusing there then that’s buzzing
and then you go
so it’s buzzing buzzing buzzing and then
you go to the back of the heart
and then the back of the neck and then
so so the place we always talk about the
third eye but it’s actually got in the
spine is the part
of the top of the spine here you can
often feel a tingle there
and that’s where the nerves actually go
and then
the spiritual as the top of the head so
you do
and then you focus on all ones um
until they’re all buzzing and they’re
all buzzing
and so on and when they’re all buzzing
this could take quite a while
and so on when they’re all buzzing
that’s
that’s then you imagine them all come up
to the top of the head and they drop
down the front
and when and this you could do all in
your head they come down the bottom
so usually for me once again i’ll just
continue where i was yeah
so usually for men they
it’s easier for them to because they’re
mostly
bottom and chakra based it’s easier for
them to pull it up the spine
and for women more difficult and then
for men it’s more difficult to pull it
down the front
and then for women easier again it’s not
a rule
but it’s usually a tendency and so on
then when the energy comes down the
front and hits your genitals
you can have massively big orgasm yeah
but you don’t have to go all the way up
to the top of the head you can make
little mini circles yes but you start at
the bottom
you bring it up to say the heart and
then down from the heart to there
and you keep moving it and moving it and
moving it
and so you go focus till it bows focus
to the buzzes
then move it to move and in the
beginning it takes ages
you focus you breathe and then the heat
disappears then you have to start again
and so on and the more you do it you
feel this buzzing buzzing buzzing
and then it’s buzzing and then some at
some point one day it took me six months
and you do it every day if you if you
miss a day
you probably you’ve missed three days
of exercise because it takes you back
have to do it every day and then when it
hits it comes down in the bottom you can
have a big genital orgasm
just by moving it and it feels strange
in the beginning because it’s sort of
it’s more spread out it’s not like it’s
not so
focused in the penis it’s more spread
out so
for women this would be related to a
clitoral orgasm
women can also get cervical orgasms
um also through the anus and also
um g-spot orgasms which is the urethral
sponge
but in the end an orgasm doesn’t
actually matter where you stimulate
someone
that is just what you were taught from a
really young age that this is the
pleasure i received and
you could if you teach yourself orgasm
from
touching your hand or you don’t even
need stimulus if you can do it with
with your with your mind so a lot of
people
they have these terms of oh i had a
cervical orgasm or a prostate orgasm
that’s just the part that was stimulated
and usually
because we’re not used to moving the
energy
we then orgasm in the same spot where we
got get the stimulus
but if you can actually my favorite spot
is focusing on the heart but more
towards the back of the spine
because when you focus there it sort of
the orgasm spreads over
your whole body it’s a great place to
orgasm while you have sex
um and focus on that because you’re
pulling
you’re automatically pulling the energy
up and you’re getting ready for a full
body orgasm
um yeah
i i found very few readings and books
that talk about orgasm in this way
they would they often tell you try this
toy
or try this stimulation but those are
just the patterns
that we’ve taught ourselves already
those are the patterns
we’ve taught ourselves on how to have
orgasm from a very young age
um and that can be changed and you
change it with a focus
of your mind so you use the breathing as
the pathway
and use the sounds of the pathway you so
you’re telling your body we’re ready to
orgasm now
and then you keep doing it and keep
practicing and keep practicing
and unfortunately the body it takes a
long time to learn and the body
be developing these habits since you
were born
so to change them takes a lot of
dedication
and um i would say even passion
no the there is a passion is needed to
get more and more experience in life
you know
once the passion is lost you are you can
move forward
i mean it’s all done yeah and someone
can order you to do this
like a teacher smack their hands do this
every day
[Laughter]
it’ll be really funny if somebody’s go
to school and
teacher is like
this thing
it’s like your teacher they can teach
you a new language and they
they can tell you you learn einstein
now you learn german but if you don’t
if you don’t have a passion for it
you’ll never speak that language
because you once you leave school you
stop
you say well i hated my teacher i hated
that
so it needs to come from within
it’s i would say it’s it’s like a
relationship with orgasm
but for me i found when i could start
orgasming
it’s all like all i wanted to do i just
felt so amazing oh my god wow
um and i’ve spoken to quite a few other
people that
about the same experience that they had
this inner passion for orgasm and it
changed their life tremendously
um and i actually think it says it’s not
you’re not just dealing with sexual
energy you’re dealing with
a pathway towards god
yes that is true yeah
there is no doubt about that because it
has been
that is what the ad philosophy is
all about if you dig deep into that
the tantric text basically the sound
which is which is from india the sound
allegedly is
all about the beauty of the goddess
this is high-end erotic erotical work
which is from sri sankaracharya
if you understand if you can understand
the sanskrit it’s high-end
erotic work because mysticism itself the
more depth you go in inside your mind
what you can see is just erotica
you will become more and more erotic
this is
actual experience you know i’m talking
from my actual experience
it’s not like i read from somewhere and
i understood
more and more you dig deep into the
mantras you listen to the mantras more
you’ll
experiment yourself with the different
kind of sounds
i’m so curious about myself because
i know that i am gonna die
and why i am here
so i experiment with so many things in
my own body
you know so the more and more you become
the center
the actual thing what you can see is
erotic
it’s not and i think once the erotic
also will go and the remainder will be
love
erotic and love becomes the same thing
yeah
that’s so beautiful
[Laughter]
uh you wanna go through your chart
something yeah um
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